SEX with Herpes

Good news: You can have fulfilling sex life, even if you have genital herpes! 🙂

We also need to add, that is might be a bit more complicated than without the herpes simplex virus, but still.. if you are careful (you MUST BE careful) you can enjoy everything like everyone else. Hurray! 🙂

If you have sores on your genitals you MUST avoid the following sexual activities:

  • receiving oral sex
  • anal sex
  • vaginal sex

If you don’t have any symptoms, you partner still can be infected. That’s why it is important, that you inform your partner about your HSV, and they understand the risks.

Between outbreaks it is absolutely OK to have sex – but to be on the safe side – always use condom by the above mentioned sex activities. (receiving oral sex, anal and vaginal sex). Using condom is also not 100% safe, but it provides some protection.

Oral Sex with genital herpes

You wanna have sex and you don’t have herpes sores on your mouth? Have an oral sex with your partner! 🙂 You just need to be careful: explore each other, but avoid genital-to-genital contacts, and you both will be safe! 🙂

Mutual Masturbation with genital herpes

You or your partner has an outbreak of genital symptoms? Try mutual masturbation. You can use your own poses, and there is almost no risk. Enjoy the time together! 🙂

Just make sure

  • you wash your hands with soap and warm water before and after the mutual masturbation
  • you don’t touch your partner after touching a herpes sore on yourself
  • no bodily fluids could be exchanged by accident
  • do not share a toy(example vibrator) during the mutual masturbation
  • always wash the toys with soap and warm water before and after the masturbation


  • make sure you enjoy it! 😉